I gave them both neutrals. Interested to see if they cause any flak about it. I didn't give them a negative because, shoot, I didn't give the guy who sent me a card with a pube sticking out of the holder a negative and I found that waaaaay worse.
Itís not what happens to you, but how you react to it that matters.
Everything can be justified. It just depends on the justifier's ignorance.