Silly question but wouldnt a fair comparison between a trade and a sale be in this case if one person already mailed out a trade. In your sale, one person fulfilled their side of the agreement (via paying). In this case the fulfillment of the trade had yet to be completed by either party. Hence, they still having the cards and nothing being sent back(refunding).
just my 2 cents
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