Sorry that guy is being a dick. You kinda have chalk this one up as an expensive learning experience. I had someone send me the card I bought, and then, by mistake sent me another card right after that they had sold to someone else (a bowman chrome red refractor auto). I sent it back because (a) it's the right thing to do and (b) I didn't want the bad karma. They hooked me up with a refund on the card I did buy. I've also been burnt on a trade where I sent cards and the other person sent me an emply top loader. Some people just like to ruin things for everyone else...
I'll make a deal with you. I won't be offended by your asking price or your offer. And vice versa.
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