In need of manly advice

JosieDively · 01-11-2013, 04:02 PM

Background: My husband comes from a family that was probably the prototype for the trophy generation. I come from the exact opposite of where everything you do has room for improvement. In fact, I can't remeber a single time my dad told us we did a good job at something.

My b-I-l has done some projects around our house for us. I have not been happy with any of them. I will not get into details but lets just some of them are very poorly done. I have expressed my disappointment with them to my husband but he always says "he did the best he could". How do I get through to my husband that he is under no circumstances to "fix" anything in our house. He just isn't getting it.

Ps: I was appreciative for the effort he put forth but my husband says because I don't like the job he did that I am being unappreciative.

monkeymcgee · 01-11-2013, 04:03 PM

Ask him if he wasn't his brother would he be happy with the work.

And I'd mention that this is your home not some self-esteem camp for his brother.

fullmetal · 01-11-2013, 04:07 PM

I could paint you a picture (the very best I could do) and it would still look like crap.

I think you need to find a good comparison to explain to your husband that one's best isn't always good enough.

JosieDively · 01-11-2013, 04:12 PM

I have found one of the biggest things is anytime you try to give constructive criticism it is seen as being unappreciative.

mmbtvs · 01-11-2013, 04:13 PM

Tell him you will withhold sex until the projects are completed to your satisfaction. Then every time he tries to get some tell him you're on still on strike.

jusdukky · 01-11-2013, 04:15 PM

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Originally Posted by mmbtvs

Tell him you will withhold sex until the projects are completed to your satisfaction. Then every time he tries to get some tell him you're on still on strike.

Winning ^^^^^^^^

JosieDively · 01-11-2013, 04:15 PM

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Originally Posted by mmbtvs

Tell him you will withhold sex until the projects are completed to your satisfaction. Then every time he tries to get some tell him you're on still on strike.

He would easily call that bluff.

mmbtvs · 01-11-2013, 04:20 PM

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Originally Posted by JosieDively

He would easily call that bluff.

Man up! Just DIY that #@#@#@#@ until he gets the point.

Lockdown32 · 01-11-2013, 05:33 PM

Find a new husband. He will get the point then!

Nodie27 · 01-11-2013, 05:36 PM

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Originally Posted by JosieDively

He would easily call that bluff.

Ok, how about you tell him that every time his brother does a poor job that you'll do the same. Half assed, lazy hj's and bj's will get the point across.

briscogun · 01-11-2013, 10:42 PM

Seriously, my wife would just tell me, "Your brother is not doing any more jobs around this house. Ever." That would be the end of that. I didn't realize that a discussion was allowed and I could have an opinion that mattered.

JosieDively · 01-12-2013, 11:31 AM

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Originally Posted by briscogun

Seriously, my wife would just tell me, "Your brother is not doing any more jobs around this house. Ever." That would be the end of that. I didn't realize that a discussion was allowed and I could have an opinion that mattered.

You don't. She is doing her job well. I have failed at being the boss around here.

ilovethelakings · 01-12-2013, 12:09 PM

Take a dump, but do not flush it. Take your hubby into the bathroom and make him look at your masterpiece. Express to him that your BIL's work around your home is just like what you just "made" yourself. If your husband cannot make the connection, then it is time to get a new one. I believe Migraine is still single and looking, but he does live in San Francisco, so......

briscogun · 01-12-2013, 12:25 PM

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Originally Posted by JosieDively

You don't. She is doing her job well. I have failed at being the boss around here.

We need to pull your man off to the side and let him know about the memo that went out, oh... about 1972 or thereabout... where it was determined that women now controlled the household and men were relegated to a subserviant role.

He is obviously operating under the assumption that he has a voice in these matters. If you don't address this now, some of the rest of us might start thinking that OUR opinions count, and you could upset the entire balance of power in the western hemisphere for the next 50 years.

Or, you could just jump his bones, get him all revved up and ready to go, and then just as he's about to maximize the experience, stop and ask him how a job half done feels.

JosieDively · 01-12-2013, 12:28 PM

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Originally Posted by ilovethelakings

Take a dump, but do not flush it. Take your hubby into the bathroom and make him look at your masterpiece. Express to him that your BIL's work around your home is just like what you just "made" yourself. If your husband cannot make the connection, then it is time to get a new one. I believe Migraine is still single and looking, but he does live in San Francisco, so......

I totally know better to read here while eating but went against my better judgement.

After all these suggestions, I just decided I am moving out. I don't like this house anyway and marriage is stupid.

marino5084 · 01-12-2013, 12:36 PM

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Originally Posted by mmbtvs

Tell him you will withhold sex until the projects are completed to your satisfaction. Then every time he tries to get some tell him you're on still on strike.

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Originally Posted by JosieDively

He would easily call that bluff.

Better yet. Next time you have sex, look disappointed when finished. When he asks what's the matter just pat him on the head and say "you did the best you could".

Metsfan1121 · 01-12-2013, 12:52 PM

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Originally Posted by marino5084

Better yet. Next time you have sex, look disappointed when finished. When he asks what's the matter just pat him on the head and say "you did the best you could".

This. Do This.

TOMBB25 · 01-12-2013, 01:26 PM

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Originally Posted by JosieDively

I totally know better to read here while eating but went against my better judgement.

After all these suggestions, I just decided I am moving out. I don't like this house anyway and marriage is stupid.

Problem solved, glad you came to the right conclusion, good job Team Blowout

vc15jrich23 · 01-12-2013, 01:34 PM

Life insurance, buy a beater car without license plates..........

JosieDively · 01-21-2013, 10:03 PM

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Originally Posted by briscogun

We need to pull your man off to the side and let him know about the memo that went out, oh... about 1972 or thereabout... where it was determined that women now controlled the household and men were relegated to a subserviant role.

He is obviously operating under the assumption that he has a voice in these matters. If you don't address this now, some of the rest of us might start thinking that OUR opinions count, and you could upset the entire balance of power in the western hemisphere for the next 50 years.

Or, you could just jump his bones, get him all revved up and ready to go, and then just as he's about to maximize the experience, stop and ask him how a job half done feels.

I don't know how I missed but I don't want to ruin a good thing everyone else's wives/gf/so's have going on.

We did have a conversation the other day about them fixing something together. It ended with me saying "no F-Ing way" and we left it at that.

01-11-2013, 04:02 PM	#1 (permalink)
JosieDively Member Join Date: Jan 2012 Location: Pennsylvania Posts: 3,053 devilgoof JosieDively	In need of manly advice Background: My husband comes from a family that was probably the prototype for the trophy generation. I come from the exact opposite of where everything you do has room for improvement. In fact, I can't remeber a single time my dad told us we did a good job at something. My b-I-l has done some projects around our house for us. I have not been happy with any of them. I will not get into details but lets just some of them are very poorly done. I have expressed my disappointment with them to my husband but he always says "he did the best he could". How do I get through to my husband that he is under no circumstances to "fix" anything in our house. He just isn't getting it. Ps: I was appreciative for the effort he put forth but my husband says because I don't like the job he did that I am being unappreciative. __________________ MY teams: Philadelphia Eagles, Michigan State Spartans Pittsburgh Pirates and Penguins "A truly happy person is one who can enjoy the scenery while on a detour." ~Author Unknown

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monkeymcgee Member Join Date: Apr 2010 Location: VA Posts: 5,426 I will sell no more forever	Ask him if he wasn't his brother would he be happy with the work. And I'd mention that this is your home not some self-esteem camp for his brother. __________________ Reformed sports collector/seller, now strictly collecting non-sports sketches and loving it! \| I no longer sell cards on eBay or through here. I will consider trades. My sketch collection: http://sketchcollectors.com/gallery.php?user_id=727

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fullmetal Member Join Date: Feb 2009 Posts: 4,907	I could paint you a picture (the very best I could do) and it would still look like crap. I think you need to find a good comparison to explain to your husband that one's best isn't always good enough. __________________ A majority cannot take away your rights as an American citizen. Only you can choose to give up your rights.

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JosieDively Member Join Date: Jan 2012 Location: Pennsylvania Posts: 3,053 devilgoof JosieDively	I have found one of the biggest things is anytime you try to give constructive criticism it is seen as being unappreciative. __________________ MY teams: Philadelphia Eagles, Michigan State Spartans Pittsburgh Pirates and Penguins "A truly happy person is one who can enjoy the scenery while on a detour." ~Author Unknown

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